The Way You Love at 30 Was Set at 3
Anxious, avoidant, secure, fearful. Attachment theory explains why you keep falling apart in love, and why you're not stuck with your childhood.
The 'Reason' You Found Doesn't Actually Exist
The commentator says the player must be feeling the pressure now. You think it was the new shoes that broke your record. You decide the date went cold because you said the wrong thing. We can't help looking for causes—but most of the time that 'cause' doesn't exist. It's just math: the good regresses down, the bad regresses up.
Why Smart People Do Dumb Things
A bat and a ball cost 110 dollars total. The bat costs 100 more than the ball. How much is the ball? If you blurted out 10 dollars, you just made the same mistake as over half of Harvard students. From Thinking, Fast and Slow—why being smart and being rational are not the same thing.
Why You Feel Empty After Scrolling Short Videos
It's 11 PM and you just wanted to check tomorrow's weather. By the time your phone hits your chest, it's 1:40 AM. What you lose isn't two and a half hours—it's your capacity for deep thought, your patience to sit still, and your ability to do the things that only pay off over the long run.
The "Nice Guy" Isn't Actually Nice
That person around you who never says no, never gets angry, and swallows everything—they might not be as nice as they seem. From No More Mr Nice Guy, here's the dark side of the Nice Guy, and how to break free from people-pleasing.
The Invisible Contract: You Signed It, but They Never Knew
Every time you give, there's a condition attached—one you never said out loud. From No More Mr Nice Guy, here's why invisible contracts never work, and how to break the cycle.
Procrastination Isn't Laziness—It's Self-Protection
Procrastination isn't a time management problem or a moral failing—it's about how you relate to yourself. Drawing from The Procrastination Equation, here's the psychology behind why we stall, and how to break the equation that keeps us stuck.
Two Types of People in AI: Metric Chasers and Structure Thinkers
Many problems in the AI industry aren't technical problems—they're systemic structural problems. And most people's way of solving them only reinforces the structure. Inspired by Thinking in Systems, here's the difference between chasing metrics and seeing structure.
Rebuilding Identity in the Age of AI
When AI pushes knowledge work toward zero marginal cost, how do you rebuild who you are? The shift from 'what I do' to 'what I'm trying to solve'—and why taste and leadership are what actually matter now.
Reading Notes: 3 Counterintuitive Mental Models
Three fascinating psychology insights: how to hack your habits through identity, why we need delayed gratification, and how to protect yourself by downgrading criticism to information.
